Balcony Friends – Basement Friends and whatever is in Between Friends….


Keep away from small people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great…… Mark Twain

In appreciation to Kelly Rudolph of Positive Women Rock, for being my inspiration behind this blog post since here it was Thursday and I had no clue on what to write.  Then she sent me an email and asked what to call the friends between balcony and basement and she gave me the idea for this post.


We all have people in our lives that either inspire us or bring us down.  I call the ones that bring us down basement people and I call the ones that pick us up balcony people.  The balcony people triumph in your accomplishments, they are your cheerleaders, the ones that will encourage you and bring you to new heights.  They are there for you with words of encouragement and want to see you succeed.  These are the people I choose to surround myself with, their energy is magical, and they are a magnet for more positive forces and they are so much FUN to be around.  They don’t take themselves so seriously and you know when you are among these balcony friends, for you feel good.

You can figure out pretty quickly where people are coming from – be around a person a few times and you will know if they are hanging out in the balcony or basement.  The balcony people will find positive in even the not so positive situations – they will see the light even in the dark.  They will turn a negative into a positive and find the silver lining.  They don’t see problems but they see learning tools and opportunities for growth.

Then there’s the basement people – these are the ones that will complain, can’t see the good in anything and seem to want to bring you down with them.  Have you ever watched a crab pot – when one of those crabs decide to leave the barrel and they make their exit via the top – the other crabs will cling onto them and bring them right down with the others.  These types of people exude negativity and won’t be happy until they transfer their negative ideas and energy to someone else.  Some people call these basement people energy vampires.  They will drain you and you’ll feel somewhat tired or even exhausted after leaving their presence.  Sometimes you’ll even feel as if something hit you and left you numb.  They are the joy busters.

Then there are the ones in the middle:  they are your constant, the ones you can go to no matter what and they are always there for you.  They listen, they listen some more and they are there to just BE and LOVE you!  So I guess we’ll call them the Between Friends – to keep with the “B” theme of words.

The wonderful thing about life and our growth in life is that we have a choice to surround ourselves with either balcony or basement people.  You’ll hear many excuses why people stay around these basement people.  Here are some excuses to keep them in your life, “Well, we’ve been childhood friends and now it would be totally wrong to not be friends with them.”  Another excuse would be, “If I let go of them, then what, who will be my friend?”  Another good one would be, “I’ve heard them talk about people and I don’t want to be their target of attention if I no longer am in their lives.”  The great thing is that when we clear space and let basement people out of our lives then we make more room for what we want in our lives.  Release them, let them go and send them love and light – bless them with LOVE.  For even the basement people teach us the lessons we need to learn.

So ask yourself this question?  Do I want to be around BALCONY people and have them lift me up or do I want to be around basement people and go down to the dark abyss of negativity with them.  The answer is simple and you know how you want to feel so the choice is now yours to take a deeper look inward and figure out which friends are to remain in your world.  There’s a great saying that I adore and it goes like this:

When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. S/he has come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
S/he is there to meet a need. Then without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, s/he will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes s/he walks away. Sometimes s/he acts up or out and forces you to take a stand. What we must realize is that the need has been met.
When a person comes into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. S/he may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. S/he may teach you something you have never done. S/he usually gives you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons. Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. You must accept the lesson, love the person/people anyway, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.


What type of person are you?  Are you a balcony personsinging, dancing, inspiring, encouraging on the platform of life or are you a basement person bringing others down and stealing joy and confidence along the way?

If you make one knowledgeable decision that you shall not walk into any environment or any action that doesn’t enhance your grace you’ll never be disgraced… kind, be compassionate, be caring….Yogi Bhajan

Be the change by being a balcony person for yourself first and then for others…..

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

 Picture below by Nathalie VilleneuveBalcony Friends


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  1. Nancy, You have been a Balcony Girlfriend since we first met years ago. I’ve learned so much from you that has truly and positively impacted my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and love with so many girlfriends!
    Love you! ? Kelly
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    • Hello Balcony Girlfriend Kelly ~ isn’t it so beautiful when you hang out in the balcony more balcony peeps join you!

      I have been truly blessed to know you and be part of your life…..

      Big love your way and I appreciate the inspiration,

  2. Nathalie says:

    Hi Nancy, You’ve been an inspiration for so many years! The first time I read about basement or balcony friends was on one of your blog post and I’ve kept it engrained in my mind as a great reminder. I continue to talk about my best online friends to people and you pop up in many of my conversations. Thank you for continuing to share your light with us…Love ya! ~ Nathalie
    Nathalie recently posted…Social Media Summit Part 2My Profile

    • Hi Nathalie,

      Your art has been an inspiration to me for many years. Do you know that every single art piece on my wall is a Nathalie creations – so your energy is all around me every single day! I do remember the first time you read Balcony Friends versus Basement Friends and how your beautiful art piece showed up shortly after that. So in reality my Balcony Friend, we have both been inspired by each other!

      Big Love your way,

  3. Delmy says:

    Yes dear “Balcony Friend” I love the way you explain what a difference it makes to know what kind of friend we are and what kind of friends we choose to surround ourselves with. It’s time to close the door to the basement and step up to the balcony where the view of life is better! Cheers!
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    • Hello Beautiful Friend that hangs out in the Balcony Seats!

      Thank you for your wonderful comment and for stopping by to read! Yes, let’s close that door to the basement and you’re so right – the Balcony Seats are always so much more pleasant!

      Big love your way,

  4. Dear Nancy – my favorite balcony friend and BFF-

    You introduced me to balcony and basement friends a few years ago.

    It is such a simple concept but we continue to collect the basement friends who suck us dry.

    You taught me to say “NO.”

    My friend base has seriously dwindled. The basement ones are gone.

    It was a little lonely for a while. There was almost no one left.

    Surprisingly, it leaves you open to attract people to the balcony.

    When you need a favor, they don’t even ask “why?” They just do it.

    Like you.
    Corinne Edwards recently posted…START YOUR BOOK NOW – from Write Your Book – Publish Your Book – Promote Your book – on AmazonMy Profile

    • Dearest Corinne and Balcony BFF ~

      Yes I did introduce the concept years ago and it was time to bring it back….

      Yes to say NO to someone else is often saying YES to ourselves and there is nothing wrong with that is there?!

      The “basement friends” will dwindle down but leaving nothing but open space for balcony friends to show up in perfect order and timing. For the Universe is self organizing and self correcting! Letting go of those who drain us will lead us to more positive energy flow and you stated it perfectly, “leaves you open to attract people in the balcony.”

      I am in appreciation of you to support my work!

      In gratitude and love,

  5. kemi says:

    Thanks for sharing this, fortunately I know my balcony friends and they know me, without their gift of friendship life will be so dull. I appreciate you loads my balcony friends. The basement ones are there so that sometimes we can see things in perspectives, and not to take our balcony /between friends for granted, but to keep and nurture each other.

    • Love the way you stated this Kemi!

      It’s so true not to take our precious gifts for granted ever! I appreciate the reminder here!

      In gratitude for you stopping by to read this post,

  6. Gail Foley says:

    I absolutely LOVE your article and inspirational way to define friends! I’m so grateful to be in the balcony, but once upon a time, I was in the basement of my mind, not destroying anyone but myself!

    So glad to have ‘met’ you.

    Passing On A Smile,

    • Hi Gail and it’s a pleasure that you discovered my site.

      Isn’t that so true that when we go to the basement of our minds we only hurt ourselves. Living in the balcony of your mind takes you to a high vibration of love and light!

      Please stop by again,
      Big smiles your way,

  7. Janeen says:

    Nancy this is such a timely message in my life. I have been so blessed by you and the friends you introduced me to. All of which are radiant and positive and truly stand on the balcony. I have learned that there are some people who want to be balcony friends but just aren’t there yet and it is okay because I learn as much as they do. It is amazing when you decide to be positive the backlash that can come from those basement friends. I thank you for all your positive messages. Thank you in love, peace and harmony.

    • Hi Janeen,

      I read your comment and I smile in that you recognize the balcony friends and basement friends and I love your message. Yes, we do learn so much even from the basement friends.

      Being a balcony friend is really pretty amazing!

      Thank you for reading all the positive messages that I put out there.

      In gratitude and love,

  8. Nathalie says:

    You continue to inspire me…I will be starting my “companion series”soon! . Yes…paintings of men 😉
    Nathalie recently posted…Social Media Summit Part 2My Profile

    • Hi Nathalie – You are an inspiration and a Balcony Friend!!!!

      Isn’t life beautiful when we all inspire one another in order to achieve our highest potential as we were meant to live…..

      I can’t wait to see your companion series!

      Big love your way,

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