Balcony Friends – Basement Friends and whatever is in Between Friends….
Keep away from small people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great…… Mark Twain
In appreciation to Kelly Rudolph of Positive Women Rock, for being my inspiration behind this blog post since here it was Thursday and I had no clue on what to write. Then she sent me an email and asked what to call the friends between balcony and basement and she gave me the idea for this post.
We all have people in our lives that either inspire us or bring us down. I call the ones that bring us down basement people and I call the ones that pick us up balcony people. The balcony people triumph in your accomplishments, they are your cheerleaders, the ones that will encourage you and bring you to new heights. They are there for you with words of encouragement and want to see you succeed. These are the people I choose to surround myself with, their energy is magical, and they are a magnet for more positive forces and they are so much FUN to be around. They don’t take themselves so seriously and you know when you are among these balcony friends, for you feel good.
You can figure out pretty quickly where people are coming from – be around a person a few times and you will know if they are hanging out in the balcony or basement. The balcony people will find positive in even the not so positive situations – they will see the light even in the dark. They will turn a negative into a positive and find the silver lining. They don’t see problems but they see learning tools and opportunities for growth.
Then there’s the basement people – these are the ones that will complain, can’t see the good in anything and seem to want to bring you down with them. Have you ever watched a crab pot – when one of those crabs decide to leave the barrel and they make their exit via the top – the other crabs will cling onto them and bring them right down with the others. These types of people exude negativity and won’t be happy until they transfer their negative ideas and energy to someone else. Some people call these basement people energy vampires. They will drain you and you’ll feel somewhat tired or even exhausted after leaving their presence. Sometimes you’ll even feel as if something hit you and left you numb. They are the joy busters.
Then there are the ones in the middle: they are your constant, the ones you can go to no matter what and they are always there for you. They listen, they listen some more and they are there to just BE and LOVE you! So I guess we’ll call them the Between Friends – to keep with the “B” theme of words.
The wonderful thing about life and our growth in life is that we have a choice to surround ourselves with either balcony or basement people. You’ll hear many excuses why people stay around these basement people. Here are some excuses to keep them in your life, “Well, we’ve been childhood friends and now it would be totally wrong to not be friends with them.” Another excuse would be, “If I let go of them, then what, who will be my friend?” Another good one would be, “I’ve heard them talk about people and I don’t want to be their target of attention if I no longer am in their lives.” The great thing is that when we clear space and let basement people out of our lives then we make more room for what we want in our lives. Release them, let them go and send them love and light – bless them with LOVE. For even the basement people teach us the lessons we need to learn.
So ask yourself this question? Do I want to be around BALCONY people and have them lift me up or do I want to be around basement people and go down to the dark abyss of negativity with them. The answer is simple and you know how you want to feel so the choice is now yours to take a deeper look inward and figure out which friends are to remain in your world. There’s a great saying that I adore and it goes like this:
|When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. S/he has come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.|
|S/he is there to meet a need. Then without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, s/he will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes s/he walks away. Sometimes s/he acts up or out and forces you to take a stand. What we must realize is that the need has been met.|
|When a person comes into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. S/he may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. S/he may teach you something you have never done. S/he usually gives you an unbelievable amount of joy.|
|Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons. Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. You must accept the lesson, love the person/people anyway, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.|
What type of person are you? Are you a balcony person – singing, dancing, inspiring, encouraging on the platform of life or are you a basement person bringing others down and stealing joy and confidence along the way?
If you make one knowledgeable decision that you shall not walk into any environment or any action that doesn’t enhance your grace you’ll never be disgraced…..be kind, be compassionate, be caring….Yogi Bhajan
Be the change by being a balcony person for yourself first and then for others…..
Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!