CAN YOU DISAPPOINT ANOTHER TO STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF?
“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”
Paulo Coelho, Brida
Disappointment is part of living life in the fullest and yet so many are so afraid to disappoint and be disappointed. Even to the extent of not being true to oneself.
Disappointment comes in many forms from small disappointments to BIG disappointments, depending on our perspective. In reality, a disappointment is always a disappointment!
So why are we so afraid to disappoint someone in such a way that we fall short of our own happiness? It’s a FEAR to know that there may be a possibility of disappointment so we guard ourselves from disappointments and we put walls and blocks around us to ensure there are no disappointments. We tend to protect ourselves from disappointments. This blocks us from LOVE and living fully in the moments of LOVE!
Elizabeth Gilbert states it best for me when it comes to disappointment in love relationships. I am positive this will resonate with so many……from Eat Pray Love, she says about rising in love (I personally believe we rise in love, rather than fall in love):
“I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.”
We’re all here on our own spiritual path and what may be true for one may not be true for another and that’s okay – the most important thing is that you must listen to your own truth and in that listening of your truth, that is where expansion lies. Ram Dass says it so clearly, “the spiritual journey is individual, highly personal. It can’t be organized or regulated. It isn’t true that everyone should follow one path. Listen to your own truth.”
The minute you push something away, it has you! We all have a part in the dance of protection. We do create our own reality. It’s about attachment – to remember that we are in the world but not of the world will alleviate many questions. We each see a world that is a projection of our own attachment. The truth waits for eyes unclouded by longing. When you want something you only see what you want. So to stay open and receptive is key to allowing a space of love and non-attachment. In so doing, we can stay true to ourselves and know that even in disappointment there is love. Life is a set of choices about what it is you want – the moment you can identify with the soul and see it as a curriculum for awakening then everything relates to our souls awakening. Shall I disappoint or not will give you learning experiences either way. It’s so much better to live life in open awareness and truth because the experiences are the ways we work through the attachments, not by avoiding the experiences and this includes disappointments.
When it comes to living in your truth and doing what’s best for you, it’s a wonderful thing when you can be totally honest with someone and not fear disappointing someone in order to keep them from liking you. In the long run, you will probably win their respect for being totally honest with them. Remember, what someone else things about you is none of your business anyway. Through disappointment you can gain clarity and through clarity comes conviction and focus. Of course, you can speak your truth in love and compassion always.
If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment….
Henry David Thoreau
Be the change by speaking your truth even if it disappoints someone…….
Remember, may the possibilities of today excite you!